Divorce can be hard on the adults involved, even though they have a voice in the matter. Sadly, it is even harder for the kids because it is not something they are choosing. However, it is something they will have to live with that affects nearly every aspect of their life. So, it can raise a lot of questions and fears for them. At Deputy and Mizell, we know that as a parent, you want what is best for your kids in spite of the unfortunate situation you are in, and we want to help. Our divorce lawyers at Lake of the Ozarks have seen many families through the process of divorce, and we know there are a few important things you can do to make things easier on your kids as they go through this difficult period. To learn how to make your divorce easier on your kids, keep reading this blog!
1) Don’t Use Custody or Visitation as a Tool Against Your Ex
Your child loves both of his/her parents and wants to have a relationship with both of them. No matter how much you may need leverage to look out for the best interests of you (and your child), using custody or visitation for that purpose hurts your child. Furthermore, it can actually hinder your chances of getting custody. Making sure your child has quality time and a relationship with both parents in an environment that is safe, peaceful, and free of conflict is one of the best things you can do to make your divorce easier on your child.
2) Don’t Expect Your Child to Share Your Negative Feelings About Their Other Parent
Your child doesn’t have the same relationship with your Ex as you do. They need to be able to see the best in both parents because they know that both parents are literally a part of who they are. Criticizing your child’s parent can make them feel like you are criticizing them too. Even if the child agrees with you it hurts to hear and be constantly reminded of. Avoiding the temptation to bad-mouth your child’s other parent is another powerful thing you can do to help your child through this difficult time.
3) Keep Communication Open and Emotionally Safe
There is a lot for a kid to process when they are experiencing this kind of permanent change in their family dynamic. It is always better for a child to be able to talk about how they feel rather than to bottle it up or express themselves by acting out. When you create a safe emotional environment with the purpose of allowing open communication between your child and you, it is more likely for your child to be able to work through their emotions in a healthy and positive way.
Hope for the Best and Hire an Experienced Family Law Attorney!
Some divorces do get ugly, that is an unfortunate fact. But not all of them do, and there are things within your power that you can do to help. At Deputy and Mizell we encourage you to hope for the best as you prepare for the worst. We understand this is a difficult time for you. We know having an experienced attorney on your side to protect your interests and to look out for your child can make all the difference. Our Mid-Missouri divorce attorneys are here for you. If you would like to speak with an experienced divorce lawyer, call Deputy and Mizell today. Your first consultation is free, and we can be reached at 573-346-9990. Just call our Camdenton office to schedule your free consultation.
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